When I was a teenager, my mom and stepdad would always warn me to stay away from "ain't shit people". The people in question were some of my friends. "But...but they're my friends! They may make bad decisions, but they're good people." They would always get mad when I hung out with some of them, saying that they were horrible people because of their decisions and that they were going to influence me and drag me down with them. I refused to believe them.
Now that I'm older, I finally understand what "ain't shit people" are, and what my parents were trying so hard to tell me. It just took so-called "friends", an ex, and a few acquaintances to open my eyes. "Ain't shit people" are people who ride along the coattails of other people's successes, and don't do anything themselves. Those people who sat around and did nothing in high school who are now in their 30's and doing the same old shit, and still in the same situation they were in back then...those are "aint shit people". The people who have no aspirations to do anything with their lives...much like moochers. They are small-minded, and talk about people instead of furthering themselves. You strive to succeed, and they are yapping at your heels, putting doubt into your mind and talking bad about you because you got out of your rut. They try to drag you down with them- and that's the dangerous part. They become very annoying because you are trying to better yourself, and you can't do it when someone else is in your way....my ex is a prime example of that. Every time I tried to climb the ladder, he pulled me back down into the hole with him. That's why I left him. Now I'm no longer homeless, actually have a car, a career, and even money!
I remember in my younger years, hanging out with people, not really caring about their situations and how it could affect me. Now that I'm older and more educated, I look at these same people doing the same thing, and think: "You are complaining about not having any money, but you refuse to get a job,"...or "If you are so upset about your situation, do something about it." They love to talk about other people...but refused to point the finger in the other direction.
One scenario in particular stands out in my mind when I think about "ain't shit people". I used to hang out with someone whom we shall call "R". R was friendly enough, and a generally good person. R barely worked, and when she did find a job, she didn't try to do anything to climb up the ladder or get a better one. She sat around all night getting high as a kite, and spent her money on a lot of crap. She always asked for favors or for money. As the years got on, I matured and she didn't. I saw her in a store one day, high as a kite, smelling like she hadn't washed her clothes or bathed in a while. She and I talked for a while, and I just remember how awkward it was to talk to her because I'd grown out of hanging out with people like her. She invited me over to her place, and I decided that I would.
Nothing had changed. Dirty dishes piled up everywhere, trash all over the place, the house smelled like weed, and there was a random dude in the corner..and I realized, I don't like this type of thing anymore. Now, granted, I'd never done drugs, but I hung out with people who did, and that in itself could drag me down with them. She then asked me if I could buy her some food, because she didn't have any money for food....she admitted that she bought a new pair of shoes, a tattoo, and weed with her paycheck. I didn't feel remorse for her, so I told her no. Apparently that wasn't the right thing to say to someone who makes bad decisions, and she god mad. I left. I haven't seen her since.
So yes, stay away from "ain't shit people". When you are older and they're still in the same old rut, refusing to get out unless someone does it for them, you will understand what I mean....especially if they want you to take them with you...and won't do anything for themselves. When you're 40 with a house, they'll still be in the same old place, acting like a 16 year old and really doing nothing with their lives. They will drag you down with them- guilty by association, I suppose.
Now that I'm older, I finally understand what "ain't shit people" are, and what my parents were trying so hard to tell me. It just took so-called "friends", an ex, and a few acquaintances to open my eyes. "Ain't shit people" are people who ride along the coattails of other people's successes, and don't do anything themselves. Those people who sat around and did nothing in high school who are now in their 30's and doing the same old shit, and still in the same situation they were in back then...those are "aint shit people". The people who have no aspirations to do anything with their lives...much like moochers. They are small-minded, and talk about people instead of furthering themselves. You strive to succeed, and they are yapping at your heels, putting doubt into your mind and talking bad about you because you got out of your rut. They try to drag you down with them- and that's the dangerous part. They become very annoying because you are trying to better yourself, and you can't do it when someone else is in your way....my ex is a prime example of that. Every time I tried to climb the ladder, he pulled me back down into the hole with him. That's why I left him. Now I'm no longer homeless, actually have a car, a career, and even money!
I remember in my younger years, hanging out with people, not really caring about their situations and how it could affect me. Now that I'm older and more educated, I look at these same people doing the same thing, and think: "You are complaining about not having any money, but you refuse to get a job,"...or "If you are so upset about your situation, do something about it." They love to talk about other people...but refused to point the finger in the other direction.
One scenario in particular stands out in my mind when I think about "ain't shit people". I used to hang out with someone whom we shall call "R". R was friendly enough, and a generally good person. R barely worked, and when she did find a job, she didn't try to do anything to climb up the ladder or get a better one. She sat around all night getting high as a kite, and spent her money on a lot of crap. She always asked for favors or for money. As the years got on, I matured and she didn't. I saw her in a store one day, high as a kite, smelling like she hadn't washed her clothes or bathed in a while. She and I talked for a while, and I just remember how awkward it was to talk to her because I'd grown out of hanging out with people like her. She invited me over to her place, and I decided that I would.
Nothing had changed. Dirty dishes piled up everywhere, trash all over the place, the house smelled like weed, and there was a random dude in the corner..and I realized, I don't like this type of thing anymore. Now, granted, I'd never done drugs, but I hung out with people who did, and that in itself could drag me down with them. She then asked me if I could buy her some food, because she didn't have any money for food....she admitted that she bought a new pair of shoes, a tattoo, and weed with her paycheck. I didn't feel remorse for her, so I told her no. Apparently that wasn't the right thing to say to someone who makes bad decisions, and she god mad. I left. I haven't seen her since.
So yes, stay away from "ain't shit people". When you are older and they're still in the same old rut, refusing to get out unless someone does it for them, you will understand what I mean....especially if they want you to take them with you...and won't do anything for themselves. When you're 40 with a house, they'll still be in the same old place, acting like a 16 year old and really doing nothing with their lives. They will drag you down with them- guilty by association, I suppose.
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